So, you don't like your BFF's BF?

You choose your friends, not your friend's boyfriend.

We all have that friend that we love dearly and we cannot help but get mad at her when she makes dumb choices, like for example in the men she dates. But, ladies let's be honest with ourselves- we've been that 'friend' too. So, stop judging your BFF's BF.


Through the many girls night's out, sales events, and lunch dates you have learned quite a lot about your girl friends and they in return have learned plenty about you. You have grown very close, and as a good friend it's only natural that you would want the best for them. So, what do you do when your best friend is dating someone you don't like?

Bluntly tell her she can't bring him around because you can't stand him?
No, no. You need a more subtle approach. There really isn't a polite way of saying, 'I can't stand your boyfriend'. But, if you follow two simple rules it'll be easier to hear.

1) Be considerate of her feelings: You might be thinking that you are considerate of her feelings and are confronting her to spare her any future heartache. But, even though you have your best intentions no one (you included) likes to be confronted. And, no one like to be questioned about their intimacy affairs.

2) Be gentle: You have a point to make on how bad her boyfriend is for her but, you're not being heard. Don't argue about it. Just let it go. You're probably reading this and thinking, 'What?'.  But, trust me- let it go. Don't get emotionally involved because, when you do it becomes a strain on your friendship. No one likes to be yelled at or lectured. If you become aggressive with your friend you may just be pushing her away from you and more closer towards his arms.

As close as friends as you might be, you will not understand everything. The matters of the heart are a complex thing. And she might be with that guy (that you just cannot stand) because he fits in her life in a way that other people don't. You don't want to loose your friendship the way Lauren Conrad and Heidi Montag lost theirs- over a boy they didn't agree on.

Sometimes the best way to be a friend is to simply be there- listen to the good and be happy for her (truly happy for her happiness) and listen to the bad and give good advice when she's willing to accept it (without making her feel bad about the situation). Even if your friend's relationship is as toxic as Rihanna's with Chris Brown sometimes all we can do is just accept. Accept that in time she will come to her own realizations about the relationship or accept that things between them have changed for the better. But don't keep it against your bestie if she chooses to stay with her boyfriend despite what you have told her about him. Who knows, in the end you might even find a reason to defending him.

The saying is that friends are the family we choose for ourselves. And we can all be very protective of our family and friends. But, we choose our friends not their boyfriends. After all, we all have that in-law we can't really stand.